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2013-01-09 16:04:46      [英语散文]      来源:
When we get super-busy, some friendships fall by the wayside. But that doesn't mean you can't revive the relationship. Even if a lot of time has elapsed, it's worth saving those nurturing friends who know you deep down and whom you can confide in and call in a crisis. Wanting to rekindle a friendship isn't enough, though. You have to find a way to reconnect, which can be difficult after months or years of sporadic-or zero-contact. Here are the best first moves to make to get your friend back in your life.



1. Write Her a Facebook Message



Getting in touch electronically is one of the easiest ways to catch up. But what do you say in that first note? Start with some information about how busy you've been and then add in details about what you've been doing. Sharing updates about your life can encourage your friend to reply with the same openness. Once you've reconnected, make plans to see each other in person. You can't substitute Facebook or other forms of social media for real relationships.



2. Reconnect Over a Favorite Pastime



An activity that you used to do together can rev up a stalled friendship. Since that drew you together in the past, it should reignite positive memories and bring you closer again Start by emailing your friend with a list of shared favorite activities and suggest doing one of those. Anything from going shopping to visiting that coffee shop you both love can rebuild your bond.



3. Send a Handwritten Card



A note in the mail can be a welcome surprise for a friend you haven't spoken to in a while. And there's no need to wait until a holiday for an excuse to send it; a "just because" card can restart your relationship anytime. Women are busy and don't want to feel that the friendship comes with too many strings attached. So avoid mentioning the past or specific dates when you're available to meet up. Instead, leave the message open-ended, explaining that you're available for lunch or drinks in the next couple of weeks, she says. And remind her of the best way to contact you.



4. Set a Phone Date 



Hearing a friend's voice can be a great way to reconnect. But with hectic schedules, you may wind up playing phone tag for a while before you catch each other. That's why it's best to schedule a chat. Leave a voicemail with times you're available. It may feel weird to call out of the blue, but people understand. Once you've got your friend on the phone, be sure to set up time for another phone date or an in-person meeting, she adds.
用真实的声音交流是极赞的老友联系方式。不过人人都有自己的安排,电话畅聊也许需要点运气。这就是为啥我们建议你先预约一次“电话聊天” 时间。给她留条语音信息,告诉她你什么时候有空。你可能会觉得没头没脑突然邀约挺奇怪的,但一般人们都能够理解。只要你们电话通了,那就赶紧约下一次煲电话粥的时间吧,面对面聊天也行。



5. Do Something Unexpected and Kind



Whether it's sending a handmade present or her favorite type of cookies, preparing a small surprise can go a long way in rekindling a friendship, especially with someone you once considered a good pal. This will open your friend's heart to you, which will further the friendship. Just don't go overboard with a nice gesture; mailing something affordable rather than showing up at your buddy's doorstep is your best bet.



6. Throw a Dinner Party



Chances are there's more than one friend you've been meaning to catch up with, so inviting over a group can restart multiple friendships at once. Let your buddies know how much they mean to you with a girlfriend gratitude dinner. Consider inviting women who all know each other, such as a few former coworkers, to simplify planning and keep the dinner conversation flowing.



7. Invite Her Along to an Event



Have an extra ticket to a concert, party or book reading? Bringing your friend to a gathering can be more casual-and less intimidating-than meeting one on one. This takes the pressure off and lets both of you relax in a group environment. Rather than jumping into a serious discussion of why you drifted apart, you'll be socializing with other people or enjoying some entertainment, which can make your reunion less awkward.



8. Try Out a New Experience



Creating fun memories together is a sure way to rekindle a friendship, says Chua. Email your friend about meeting up and suggest a list of activities you've been meaning to try for your get-together. Some ideas: playing paintball, going rock climbing, taking dance lessons and going trekking, says Chua. "This is a great way to learn new things about your friend and find fresh commonalities to bond over."


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