Starting a new job can make us feel like we’ve gone back in time to our first day of junior high school. We want people to like us, but we don’t want to seem too eager. We hope we’ve worn the right clothes and dressed up enough, but not too much. The self-confidence we had in the interview that landed us the job is slowly taken over by nerves as our first day approaches, and we worry about making a good first impression.
But new jobs should be exciting, not stressful. We’re taking on a new role, a fresh start, one filled with opportunities and a future—we’re not going to the dentist. Use the following six ways to fit in at your new job.
4. Initiate an outing. 邀同事一起出去
During the first few weeks or so, send around an email asking if anyone is interested in familiarizing you with the surrounding coffee shops, decent lunch places, or fun happy hour bars. All of us have a little gem of a spot that we love showing off. However be sure to double check with your supervisor on who should receive your invite; the CEO probably doesn’t have time to share a martini with you. Keep these outings sporadic and remember to balance your work and social life—they’re two different things. Real friendships with coworkers will form naturally, with time—not likely on day one. 在最初几周，给大家发邮件问问谁有兴趣陪你去熟悉一下周围地区的咖啡馆、优雅午餐地点、或休闲酒吧。人人心中其实都有表现的欲望。不过一定要问一问主管谁会接受你的邀请，CEO大概就没时间和你一起喝马提尼酒。偶尔邀人一起出去，记住平衡工作和交际——它们是两回事。和同事间真正的友情会自然而然地形成，需要时间——不太可能第一天就会出现。
5. Make allies, but be professional. 结交伙伴，但要职业化
Avoid gossip at all costs. Even if it seems like friendly banter, remain professional, and steer clear of water cooler gossip. Be above it, ignore it, and move on. You’ll earn a lot of respect by doing so and influence others to do it less. A better way to learn workplace personalities is to ask questions about preferences and processes. A good indicator is to study people’s email etiquette. For example, Mrs. Smith always includes a good Morning! and Thanks so much for your help!, while Mrs. Simmons never GREets people in her emails. Learn by example and study how employees write and communicate with one another and between departments. You should do the same. 不管怎样都要避免闲话。即便那只是一个善意的玩笑，也要保持职业化，远离饮水机旁的闲话。要轻视、无视闲话，把它们抛在脑后。这样做能让你赢得别人很多尊重，也会使别人少说闲话。一个更好的了解别人个性的方式是问一问喜好和工作流程。 研究人们电子邮件的用词是一个好办法。例如：Smith太太总会在邮件中写“上午好！”以及“非常感谢你的帮助！”而Simmons太太在她的电子邮件中从不和别人打招呼。观察周围的人，学习员工和部门之间如何发邮件和交流。你也要照着做。
6. Your moment to shine will come. 你的时刻会来到 However much you want to shed the rookie status, realize that your coworkers have been there longer than you have—they deserve your respect and full attention. Resist the impulse of trying to impress everyone with all your new ideas. Stick to the job you were hired for. In time, you’ll earn your coworkers’ trust and they will help guide you through the company. Save up those ideas and perfect them until it’s your time to shine. 不管自己是多么想要摆脱菜鸟身份，要知道你的同事比你呆的时间长——他们应得到你的尊敬和关注。克服要用自己的那些新想法让每个人都钦佩你的冲动。做好本职工作。到时候，你就会赢得同事的信任，他们也会帮助你了解公司。先将那些想法保留一下，完善它们，等待合适的时机再和大家分享吧。
First day nerves are inevitable, but remember, you got the job—the hard part is over. And although there will always be bullies and brown-nosers (just like in junior high), stressful days, and mistakes, remember that you are a professional. Walk into that first day and simply observe, adapt, learn, and succeed. In the end, your first day only lasts eight hours—it will be over before you know it. 第一天上班的紧张不可避免，但要记住，你得到了这份工作——最困难的一步已经走过来了。 虽然欺软怕硬者、拍马匹的人（就像在初中），有压力的日子、犯错误这些永远都存在，但是要记住你是一名职场人士。迈入第一天的工作。只要观察、适应、学习，最后你就会成功。最后一点，第一天只有八小时，不知不觉中你就会渡过了。