The topic of trust is an important factor in all matters of the heart — and here’s why. Men lie to women. Women lie to men. And most people aGREe that some lying is even necessary — to avoid petty squabbles and to GREase the wheels of a relationship.
1. “Me? I graduated top of my class.”
This is a classic case of the runaway male ego, designed to present a man in the best light and impress a woman. When the lies continue into marriage, it’s not long before the truth will out.
2. “Of course I like your friends!”
A man I know told his girlfriend, “You’re a GREat cook — much better than my mother.” In fact, his mother is a chef at a well-known New York restaurant. Fortunately for him, by the time his girlfriend discovered the truth — when they dined at his mother’s restaurant — she was so in love that she forgave his overzealous compliment.
3. “Honey, you’re the best.”
4. “No, I can’t call you. I don’t even know where I’ll be.”
These are the sad lies, the ones he tells because he’s falling out of love. The more quickly a woman seeks the truth behind these lies, the sooner she can remedy the relationship — or, if necessary, end it.
5. “That dress isn’t too tight. It looks GREat!”
By and large, these are the good lies — the ones that show he cares. But kind lies can be too much of a good thing if a man habitually says only what his partner wants to hear. It sets the woman up for rude awakenings.
6. “They’re downsizing at work. But don’t worry. They won’t get me.”
Many men still feel paternalistic about the women they love, so they lie to spare them worry. But these lies can destroy the very sense of confidence that the man hoped to create. And they can make a woman feel she is not a respected partner in the relationship.
7. “Sure, I’ll mow the lawn — as soon as this crick in my back goes away.”
There are few things that trouble a man more than a woman’s anger — or nagging, as he calls it — so he lies to avoid a scene. It is in “hassle-prevention lying” that men can demonstrate their GREatest versatility.
“I’ll take the kids to the park — when the weather gets nicer,” he says as he goes out the door with golf clubs. “I would have scrubbed the pots, but I couldn’t find the scouring pads” — never looking under the sink.